Codependency is a pattern of behavior in which someone prioritizes the needs, feelings, or problems of others above their own. Often, it develops in families where dysfunction, addiction, or emotional neglect is present. People who struggle with codependency may feel responsible for other people’s happiness, attempt to “fix” those around them, and experience low self-esteem despite high achievement. Boundaries can feel blurry, and self-worth may be tied to how well they care for or manage the emotions of others.
If you’re reading this, you may recognize some of these patterns in your own life:
You find yourself walking on eggshells around family members, partners, or friends, constantly adjusting your behavior to avoid conflict or disappointment.
You feel compelled to fix problems for people who may not want or need your help, often at the expense of your own emotional well-being.
You struggle with low self-esteem even though you are high-achieving, successful, or capable in your career or personal life.
You experience extreme anxiety, guilt, or shame when you try to assert your own needs or set boundaries.
You feel trapped in relationships that are volatile, avoidant, or characterized by denial, anger, or substance misuse.
You spend significant energy analyzing past interactions, wondering if you could have done things differently to prevent conflict, addiction, or dysfunction in others.
You notice patterns repeating across your relationships, whether with partners, parents, or siblings, leaving you frustrated and exhausted.
These experiences can be overwhelming, isolating, and confusing. You may notice emotional highs and lows, depression, or anxiety that seem linked to other people’s behavior rather than your own choices. It’s common to feel conflicted between wanting to help and knowing that your efforts may not lead to meaningful change. You can also experience physical ailments due to psychological stress.
Understanding codependency is the first step toward regaining clarity and self-agency. Therapy can provide a safe space to:
Explore how family dynamics or past experiences shaped your patterns of behavior.
Learn to identify and maintain healthy boundaries without guilt.
Develop strategies for managing relationships with people who are struggling with addiction, avoidance, or other dysfunctions.
Reconnect with your own voice, needs, and values so that your actions align with your well-being rather than others’ expectations.
If any of this resonates with you, know that you are not alone. Codependency is common, but it is also treatable. With guidance and support, you can reclaim your sense of self, strengthen your boundaries, and build healthier, more balanced relationships. Contact me today to get started. You are worthy.
